It was their very first visit, and Jan was a bit nervous about the plans she had made to take Chase to the library, as his Foster Mom had informed her that he had been in time-out at school 16 times that week!
Jan was pleasantly surprised by his behavior during their time together. Chase was a perfect gentleman! He consistently said “please” and “thank you”, and asked several times if she was enjoying her time with him. After they had checked out a couple of books to read together during their next visit, Jan brought Chase back to the home of his foster parents. While walking up to the door, Chase asked, with a hopeful look on his face, if he had been a good boy.
“You’ve been fantastic,” she told him.
“Good,” he replied with excitement, letting out a big sigh of relief. “You can write a note to the judge and let him know so that I can go home sooner.”
An overwhelming majority of children who have been removed from their family home as a result of abuse and neglect want desperately to return to their parents. It is not uncommon for a child to blame him or herself for being removed, as the experiences are often internalized, leading to overwhelming shame, self-loathing, worthlessness, fear, and disgust.